Well, you could immediately see the relief on his face. You see, I had already learned that, sometimes, when your loved one comes to you ready to break up, all they really want is for you to acknowledge that there IS a problem, and that you respect their right to be upset. Jerry was prepared for a confrontation and, when I didn’t offer one, instead pulling even farther away from me, we actually bonded a little more because we were both finally in agreement on something.

Jerry went ahead and left that night, after I gave him his belongings and got my key back, of course. And, as I learned from my girlfriend, I left him completely alone for a few weeks to give us both time to get our heads on straight and analyze our feelings for each other. Not communicating with him gave me the opportunity to really see what might have been the cause of the problem and if it was even possible to solve it. In the meantime, my not communicating with him also gave HIM the opportunity to realize what he had lost.

About a month after the break up, I dropped a little note into the mail for him. Just a brief note telling him that I was sorry for whatever I had done that had upset him and that he was right, the breakup had been good for me. I also told him that I’d love to tell him about all the great things that were happening to me, but that I needed to rush off right now, and I’d try to catch him later. Well, that little note certainly did turn the tables. Jerry was so curious now, to know what was going on in my life, that he called me the very next day and asked me for a date. (Of course, I told him I was too busy but that I had a free night on Saturday. A girl should never accept a date without at least 48 hours notice! It just isn’t the thing to do!)

Jerry had decided to take me somewhere we had never been before, since it was our “First Date” – again! LOL He took me to this really awesome movie theater downtown where they show classic movies and movies that have won Academy Awards. And guess what was playing! “Titanic”! Quite possibly THE most romantic movie of all time! We got seats in the back row. And shortly after the movie started, Jerry did that fake stretch and yawn move. You know the one? When they’re done stretching and yawning, the guy lets his arm flop onto your shoulder? Well, we both cracked up at that and someone turned around to hush us. And we didn’t make another peep for the whole rest of the movie…….

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