Here’s a list of 5 things to consider if you and your ex are thinking about getting back together again.

1. Have past issues been resolved? – Maybe you haven’t even discussed the break up. If not, you’re definitely not ready to get back together. But if you’ ve at least come to a clear understanding of the issue that caused the breakup, then check this one off the list.

2. Did both of you learn anything from this breakup? – Break ups don’t just happen over night and without good reason. If you’ve discussed the issue and learned how to prevent it from happening again, then check this one off, too.

3. Does your future together look promising? – When you look into the future of your relationship, does it look different than the past? Do you both understand that relationships, as well as the people who are in them, are constantly growing and changin?

4. Did you learn that you can live without him? – One of the biggest reasons that people stay in bad relationships, or rekindle a bad relationship is because they think they can’t live without their partner. You both should have learned that that is not the case. Did you both find a way to enjoy life while you were separated? If yes, than mark this one off.

5. Are your life goals and core beliefs basically aligned? – Can you at least support each other on the paths that you’ve chosen and help each other along the way?

Tomorrow, I have more tips for you, and more things to add to that checklist – we all know how important checklists are, don’t we? And most importantly, we must have a plan to win at getting back together.

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